IndependenceAmerica’s birthday is July 4th commonly known as Independence Day.  It is the day representatives from the 13 colonies signed the declaration of independence, a document that stated their grievances with King George and stated their intensions of self-rule independent of the rule of King George and England.  Independence is in the DNA of the American. The character trait of the rugged individual is adored and celebrated in the folklore of the western expansion, the frontiersman, the cowboy, the inventor and the industrialist.  It is little wonder that independence is often mentioned as a character trait that parents want to instill in their children.  Independence from the government social handouts is virtuous personal responsibility; independence from indentured corporate servitude is laudable economic freedom and independence of thought from the hypnotic media is to protect rationality.  Even the Reformation was a declaration of independence of sorts from the tyrannical abuses of Rome and a return to the truth of the Bible and the Gospel of Jesus Christ.  American’s love their independence and with good reason, it is virtually synonymous with liberty from tyrannical over-reach and has often produced a better human condition.

But not all independence has been a benefit, in fact the human quest for independence has produced more suffering than any other pursuit.  The attempt to be independent of God brought sin and death into the world.  The attempt to live independent of His law inflamed that sin produced the most wicked acts of humanity.  Then there is the modern attempt for men and women to live independent of each other inside the marriage that is destroying the family the very building block of society and God’ dominion taking design.

It is more common than not to hear a parent talk about how they are raising their daughter to be independent or to have an independent career.  This is an unbiblical desire, it is rooted in feminism and a desire to independent of God’s design for the family.  Paul writes  in 1 Corinthians 11:11  Nevertheless, neither is man independent of woman, nor woman independent of man, in the Lord.”  The feminist’s training  for independence is training for divorce, something that God hates, and training for female contention in the household. In other words it is preparation for a woman to create the conditions to live a life unmarried or to want a divorce once married and to thrive after the divorce. It is antithetical to the Biblical family and destructive to society.  It ultimately supports fornication as an act if independent pleasure and encourages the destruction of the economic family unit.   It treats the heart and lungs as separate organisms rather than distinct parts of the same organism.  But a heart cannot survive without the lungs nor the lungs independent of the heart.

Both the feminist independence and male analog of men going their own way(MGTOW) fail to unite men and women together in such a way as the union is greater than the sum of the parts in dominion taking dynamo also known as the family.  Both the feminist and the MGTOW operate with fear.  Feminists fear that they will lose their identity in the union and will fail to realize their personal potential if they do not enter the market place and submit to a man.  This is unbiblical fear and why Peter commends women who follow the example of Sarah who are submissive to their own husbands with any terror of the outcome.  It is a denial of the stated purpose of the creation of Eve from the rib of Adam.

The MGTOW fear is more rational in that it observes contemporary happenings and trends and concludes that none are exempt from the destructive force of  female discontent.  MGTOW’s fear that any woman he marries might leverage the family courts to destroy his dominion work, take from him his earnings and remove his children from his life.  He also observes that the women are taught to be perpetually discontent and to withhold sex as a means of declaring her independent control of herself.  He rationally believes that the risk is too great for probability of reward.

While the apostle makes known an exception for those who are called to an asexual existence to remain single, it is the exception not the norm; for God declares that it is not good that man be alone.  He says that the marriage bed is undefiled and that marriage is honorable.  He stated that it is He, God that makes the two one.  God put the heart and lungs together so that His image bearers can take dominion over all creation and reproduce Godly offspring.

Inside this new mysterious union is a hierarchy of authority, and a protocol of communication.  The husband is the head, the representative of God and to God for the covenant marriage.  The wife is a helper to her husband and if he is in error and in disobedience to the Word,  she is to remain submissive to her own husband, without a word, that he may be won by the conduct of his wife, when he observes her chaste conduct accompanied by fear. 1 Peter 3:1-2   Hardly independence as taught by the feminists today.

Too often the church has allowed counseling to be the voice of the wife so that her word not her conduct is prioritized over her husband.  Counselors routinely treat the couple as independent humans rather than a single organism with a God designed authority feedback protocol.  Do you not know that made the two one?   Counselors make it their practice to tear asunder what God has joined by encouraging independent tale-bearing, female insubordination and shaming of masculine expressions of headship.

Dominion will suffer as the family is eviscerated for independence.  The picture of Christ and His Church has already suffered the atomization of individual independence.  Ironically the more independence that women claim from husbands the more tyrannical the state will become.  The only way to enjoy the blessings of liberty, of the comfort s that arise when men take dominion in technology, agriculture energy etc. is to live according to God’s design as dependent creatures.  Dependent on His providential grace and dependent on each other in Biblical marriage.


Courting Disaster

10 command at USSC

I have not posted much lately in large part due to problems with my laptop keyboard, but the actions of the US supreme court this last week have motivated me to overcome my difficulty and post an initial reply.  This last week the nation witnessed the gross overreach of the court.  The US constitution no longer is the document that constrains the government, simply because the court no longer abides by the constraints framed in the constitution.  The only peaceful remedy is the impeachment of the court justices, but there is no political will do do so.   In two decision the nation witnessed the out of control court rewrite a law passed by congress and redefine the meaning of word that has stood for all of recorded human history.   Some may wonder under what doctrine of authority would provide for the empowerment of the court to abandon reason, history and culture with such arbitrary disregard for our founding and the prohibitions and warning of such an overreach.  Some may quip that the court is a de facto oligarchy rewriting our laws as they seem fit according to their own designs and motives.  This is proven by the recent decisions.

There are many frameworks that one could use to analyze the court’s decisions, but perhaps the simplest is the frame of Dialectical materialism abbreviated DM in the following.  DM is based on an application of a philosophical embrace of evolution.  The theory holds that contemporary ascendancy is the outgrowth of out of the past forms that subsequently perished for the new and improved form.   While the theory has its genesis in biology it is a comprehensive worldviews that applies to history, ethics, government, social structures and meta-physics.  While Hegel is credited for the originating the theory it was Karl Marx and Fredrich Engels that took the theory and made it a movement.   It is the philosophical underpinning of the communist revolutionary idea.   It can be summarized as the current form called the thesis, is opposed by a conflicting form or idea called an antithesis, and in a struggle for dominance the thesis is removed for new form that is neither the thesis not the antithesis, but a synthesis.  The synthesis in turn is the new thesis only to be challenged by yet a new antithesis and a new struggle and a new synthesis.

While many in academia were unwilling to call themselves full blown communists they did however adopt the DM view of progress.  Cultural Marxists have long desired to remove a powerful obstacle to their implantation of socialist theory, and those formidable obstacles include the family, sexual morality and an allegiance to their own of history.     In 1963 the Communist party USA entered into the congressional record their 45 goals.  Among them include:

  1. Present homosexuality, degeneracy and promiscuity as “normal, natural, healthy.”
  2. Discredit the American Constitution by calling it inadequate, old-fashioned, out of step with modern needs, a hindrance to cooperation between nations on a worldwide basis.
  3. Discredit the American Founding Fathers. Present them as selfish aristocrats who had no concern for the “common man.”
  4. Belittle all forms of American culture and discourage the teaching of American history on the ground that it was only a minor part of the “big picture.” Give more emphasis to Russian history since the Communists took over.
  5. Discredit the family as an institution. Encourage promiscuity and easy divorce.
  6. Emphasize the need to raise children away from the negative influence of parents. Attribute prejudices, mental blocks and retarding of children to suppressive influence of parents.

The court made giant strides to accomplish these goals.  The destruction of the thesis is happening before our eyes at a rapid rate.  The family is endangered with the prevalence of fornication easy divorce and feminist revolt, now with the dialectic definition of the court the family is even more threatened.  No society has gone down this road and survived.  I think that historians in the future will shake their heads at such attempts to change what should not be changed.  Change for the sake of change is not a good idea as those things which are proven pillars of a civilization are necessary to sustain that civilization.  Marriage and the clear meaning of words in the constitution are now being quickly eroded.   I do not know if there is enough moral capitol to left to survive another generation and more to the point I do not if the anger of God has been kindled and His patience consumed by His justice.   I know the court will not listen but I repeat words that will not fade away that God has left for them:  Psalm 2:10-12  Now therefore, be wise, O kings; Be instructed, you judges of the earth.   Serve the LORD with fear, And rejoice with trembling.   Kiss the Son, lest He be angry, And you perish in the way, When His wrath is kindled but a little. Blessed are all those who put their trust in Him.

The court is heaping up judgement for the day of reckoning, but the philosophy is the godless philosophy of that comes to the West by way of Darwin, Hegel Marx, Engels, Mao and our current president.  The rejection of the old tried and true ways for the new and improved ideas of fallen creatures who think they know a better way.  They begin with the denial of God and then His ethics, but as recorded in Psalm 2:4-5  He who sits in the heavens shall laugh; The LORD shall hold them in derision.  Then He shall speak to them in His wrath, And distress them in His deep displeasure.  If I were to grant some truth to DM I would say that sin is the Thesis and Christ’s righteousness is the antithesis, but His final judgement and deceleration of His elect as blameless and righteous is the synthesis that will never change.

The court is not the highest court in the land, the judge of heaven and earth will judge all.  He does not change will apply His standard and of which all are guilty but for the elect in Christ the penalty is paid and the righteousness of Christ is imputed.  The court will stand not just as creatures of the King, but as judges who were responsible to execute justice.  They have not only failed at justice they have given God the finger at hopes that he does not exist, or that eternity is not a long time.  They wrong on all accounts.

What is the Gospel?

cousin_jean_the_younger_501_last_judgmentThe gospel is central to the Christian faith.  In fact without the gospel there is no Christian faith.  Before you continue reading this piece, take a moment answer the question:  “What do you think is the gospel?”

Some might answer that the gospel is that “Jesus loves you and has a wonderful plan for your life”, others that Jesus died for your sins or that He rose to give to you life.  The apostle Paul cared a great deal for the gospel.  He declares that he is “not ashamed of the gospel for it is the power of salvation.”  He also gives a frightful warning to the Galatians to assure that they receive the true gospel and not a counterfeit.

… But even if we, or an angel from heaven, preach any other gospel to you than what we have preached to you, let him be accursed.   As we have said before, so now I say again, if anyone preaches any other gospel to you than what you have received, let him be accursed. Galatians 1:8-9    

Paul issues a stern in order to avoid being eternally cursed.   Therefore, it is critical to know exactly what is the true gospel, lest we seduced to a competing replacement gospel. Even a tweak of the true gospel is disallowed as Paul makes it clear that this one gospel cannot be modified by him or even angles.  It must remain pure and undiluted, just as it was originally preached.

So what is the gospel?  The NKJV uses the word “gospel” 94 times.  A survey of a few of these instances reveals a few important findings to help us understand what the Word of God means by gospel.  First in Revelation 14  we have a scene from heaven where we are explicitly told an angel is preaching the everlasting gospel.  What is that Gospel that the angle is preaching?

 Then I saw another angel flying in the midst of heaven, having the everlasting gospel to preach to those who dwell on the earth — to every nation, tribe, tongue, and people —  saying with a loud voice, “Fear God and give glory to Him, for the hour of His judgment has come; and worship Him who made heaven and earth, the sea and springs of water.  Revelation 14:6-7  

The angelic sermon contains three points: Fear God, that judgement has come, worship the creator.  One might ask “where is the everlasting gospel in those points?”  The assumption is that the gospel is good news, and by that we mean good news for me.  If it doesn’t benefit me it is not good news as far as I’m concerned.  Yet fear, judgement and worship are the everlasting gospel according to the angel in heaven.  The general assumption is that judgement is bad, and by bad we mean bad for us.   But judgement is good and by that I mean good to exhibit the glory of God first and then for all His elect.

Looking at 1 Peter, Peter’s use of gospel also challenges many modern sensibilities. Peter writes that the gospel is to be obeyed.  The modern church is not big on obedience because obedience is law and law brings judgement and that is not gospel or so they Claim.

 For the time has come for judgment to begin at the house of God; and if it begins with us first, what will be the end of those who do not obey the gospel of God? — 1 Peter 4:17 

The modern evangelical might likely ask “How is the gospel good news if it something that must be obeyed.  Surely we obey the law the gospel frees us from obedience”  While individuals keeping the law cannot save one from judgement, it is Christ’s keeping of the law that in the judgement declares the elect innocent of all evil.  Thus Paul states that the law cannot save, (your keeping of it).  This is the meaning of Galatians 2:21

 “I do not set aside the grace of God; for if righteousness comes through the law, then Christ died in vain.” 

When Paul asks:

Did you receive the Spirit by the works of the law, or by the hearing of faith? Galatians 3:2  

He is pointing the Galatians to the manner that the gospel is received by sinners and that is by faith.  Yet another biblical reference might challenge our understanding of the gospel.

  Therefore, since a promise remains of entering His rest, let us fear lest any of you seem to have come short of it.  For indeed the gospel was preached to us as well as to them; but the word which they heard did not profit them, not being mixed with faith in those who heard it.   For we who have believed do enter that rest, as He has said: “So I swore in My wrath, ‘They shall not enter My rest,’ ” although the works were finished from the foundation of the world. Hebrews 4:1-4 

The gospel then must be received by faith. Without faith the hearers will experience the wrath of God and not enter His rest.

A look at 2nd Timothy reveals that the resurrection is also a part of the gospel.  Paul is willing to suffer for the gospel.   Again, how can good news be about suffering?

 Therefore do not be ashamed of the testimony of our Lord, nor of me His prisoner, but share with me in the sufferings for the gospel according to the power of God,  who has saved us and called us with a holy calling, not according to our works, but according to His own purpose and grace which was given to us in Christ Jesus before time began,  but has now been revealed by the appearing of our Savior Jesus Christ, who has abolished death and brought life and immortality to light through the gospel,   to which I was appointed a preacher, an apostle, and a teacher of the Gentiles.  2 Timothy 1:8-11 

   Remember that Jesus Christ, of the seed of David, was raised from the dead according to my gospel…    2 Timothy 2:8

The gospel is not foundationally good news for you, but is good news because of Christ.  The gospel is Jesus wins!  This true gospel requires a fundamental reorientation.  It is not all about you, but it is all about Christ! The good news is that Christ is perfectly and exhaustively victorious.  His judgment is absolute and final. Satan, sin and death no longer have a rein, because Christ is on His throne and every knee bows to worship Him.   It is not first that we are victorious, but Christ is victorious.   We are but a part of His spoils of victory. That is the good news, Christ is victorious and in faith we are judged according to His righteousness not our own, so that we can worship Him eternally.  His victory is for His own glory not yours!  We are saved to glorify Him, not so he can glorify us.   The gospel can be summarized as the King is approved by His Father, defeats the enemy, wins glory for Himself, sets up His kingdom defends His subjects and takes His chosen bride.   The Gospel is Christ alone!  What Christ has done, is doing and will do.

Is the gospel good news for you?  The answer is a definite maybe.   David’s victory over Goliath was good news for Israel, but not so much for Philistia.  Judgement is not good news for all who are not in Christ by faith.   Absent faith one cannot enjoy life in the eternal Kingdom.   The reprobate will be judged and Christ will be glorified for His holiness and justice in that judgement.   Christ has crushed the rebellion, and all the rebels who do not affirm his rule and worship Him are banished from His kingdom to hell.  But all the elect will by the gift of faith, receive the righteousness of Christ and be judged not just as innocent, but positively righteous.   The elect will collectively be the bride of Christ and worship Him for ever and ever whose kingdom has no end.  He is glorified in His redemption for His grace and His justice satisfied by an atoning death and resurrection.

What is the Gospel?  “Fear God and give glory to Him, for the hour of His judgment has come; and worship Him …”  Who am I to argue with an angel in heaven.

More Feminist Apostasy in the News!

Whore of BabylonWhen feminists of either gender strive to be consistent they are eventually faced with the God’s Word.  It is here that the Word which separates bone from marrow, that a conflict arises.  They cannot honestly avoid the clear meaning of the text and simultaneously hold on to their presuppositions.  To resolve this conflict they either, bow the knee to the God and repent of their delusions of female repression or they abandon allegiance to God.  Now since the beginning of wisdom is the fear of the Lord, it is expected that these feminists often act foolishly, but foolish feminist is a redundancy.

This headline:  Humanities Professor: “Christianity” Just another Name for “White Supremacist Patriarchy” is but another example of how feminism is an atheist ethic. Just for good measure the fool added racism to make it more offensive.

Romans 10:3   For they being ignorant of God’s righteousness, and seeking to establish their own righteousness, have not submitted to the righteousness of God. 

Then there is this: Army ROTC cadets pressured into wearing high heels to promote feminist campaign

Feminist in order to demonstrate against sexual assault pressure men into an abomination against the Lord.

Deuteronomy 22:5    ” A woman shall not wear anything that pertains to a man, nor shall a man put on a woman’s garment, for all who do so are an abomination to the LORD your God”.

 But women are already committing the same abomination they want to like men because they have been taught that the patriarchy has given men the good life.  They want me to pay,  to walk a mile in their shoes to humiliate them.  Like other liberal ideas the humiliation of the men will do nothing to stop sexual violence or make a single woman’s life better.

At the heart of feminism is anger that men got the better curse at the fall.  Women have had it drilled into them that they got the raw end of the deal by feminists of both genders.  The seminal feminist work of Betty Friedan “The Feminine Mystique” is described in Wikipedia by this summary.

The Feminine Mystique begins with an introduction describing what Friedan called “the problem that has no name”—the widespread unhappiness of women in the 1950s and early 1960s. It discusses the lives of several housewives from around the United States who were unhappy despite living in material comfort and being married with children.

Yet one more example of how feminism is, at its heart, about discontentment.  Women are unhappy and this is the great tragedy that requires changing society from God’s blueprint. Teaching contentment and joy in womanhood is anathema and must be avoided.  Women need to have their feelings validated especially their feelings of discontent.

Male feminists have been taught that they have privilege and not responsibility.  They look to sooth their guilt by the validation of women.  They will do most anything to get female approval including: shaming other men, stirring up conflict in marriage for men who do not submit to their wife,  denigrating authority given to husbands cutting me off at the knees, and encouraging the politicization of the marriage bed.

Eve was deceived and today women are deceived as well.  Eve wanted to be something she was not, that is a god.  Women today also want to be something they are not namely men, but without all the responsibility.  Women that are discontent about: being women, being submissive to their husbands, bearing and raising children, valued as helpers to their husbands, changing their last name when they get married, not able to do what ever any man can do, being dependent on men more than a fish needs a bicycle and not allowed to be a teacher in the church.  At some point for the sake of constancy either the feminism has to go or God has to go from their lives.  No matter how they try to avoid it Christianity is patriarchal.

How to speak God’s love language!

Love-LanguagesI admit it I took the bait.  I clicked on a Facebook link shared by a friend of mine.  I knew better, but knowing that this friend has been influenced by Christo-feminism and recently was wedded for the second time I was curious what she thinking and how her life was turning out.  The link lead here.  It was another  isn’t “The 5 Love Languages” by Gary Chapman so awesome.  I hate to be a voice in the wilderness on this, but no it is not awesome, but rather toxic.

The premise of the book is that everyone has their preferred “love” language.  That language may be words, gifts, actions, touch, or time.   Their “love language” is that which make them feel validated cherished and appreciated.    The presupposition is that love is feeling and evoking that feeling is the essence of love.  The abuse of the premise is that couples (and by that it is inferred mostly husbands) need to learn their spouse’s (wife) “love language” to make them (her) feel loved.  Women’s discontent is stirred by such worldly wisdom.   So many have thought or said,  “My husband doesn’t speak my “love Language” that is why I’m not happy. “   Oh, can you just imagine the rainbows, unicorns and cotton candy that will be experienced if you can just speak the same language.

It turns out that the Bible has a different love language, but it is not too popular with Christian book publishers.

John 14:15    ” If you love Me, keep My commandments.”

Yep that is the love language of Jesus.  In case you did not get it, He repeats in the negative.

John 14:24    “He who does not love Me does not keep My words; and the word which you hear is not Mine but the Father’s who sent Me.”

The apostle John repeats the application of love rather succinctly.

1 John 5:3   “For this is the love of God, that we keep His commandments”

Still not getting it?  Let’s try again!

2 John 1:6   “This is love, that we walk according to His commandments.”

So you see the love language that Jesus hears is obedience to His words and authority which proceeds from His Father.   Five Love languages is not concerned at all with authority or obedience, but feel good practices that are in the context of negating authority and obedience.  Because love is about obedience to authority, knowing the chain of command is critical.   Consider God’s chain of command:

1 Corinthians 11:3    But I want you to know that the head of every man is Christ, the head of woman is man, and the head of Christ is God. 

I know that is not commonly heard and you might think it incorrect,  so here it is in another Epistle

Ephesians 5:23-24   For the husband is head of the wife, as also Christ is head of the church; and He is the Savior of the body.  Therefore, just as the church is subject to Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in everything. 

If a wife is to speak the love language of God then she will obey God’s words to submit to her husband, fear him, respect him help him and yes obey him.  If she is not happy, maybe it is because she finds the commandment burdensome.  Here again is 1 John 5:3 , only with the second half of the verse not abridged.  

1 John 5:3 “For this is the love of God, that we keep His commandments. And His commandments are not burdensome.”

  The key to speaking the love language of God is to obey and not fear that obeying makes one a “doormat”.  There is no fear of such things in the loving  of Christ.

1 John 4:18   There is no fear in love; but perfect love casts out fear, because fear involves torment. But he who fears has not been made perfect in love.

After all, obeying cannot make one less than what Christ has already made you, a joint heir of the grace of life.

If a husband is to speak God’s love language to his wife he is to obey the word of God and imitate Christ in such ways as: rule her (, lead her, teach her God’s law, provide for her, pray for her, chastise her (Rev 3:19), encourage her, rebuke her and die if necessary to protect her.

God’s love language is not words 1 John 3:18 My little children, let us not love in word or in tongue, but in deed and in truth.

Love is not a feeling; it is obedience to the law.  In fact is the fulfillment of the law (Gal 5;14, Rom 13:8).

Only Christians can transcend their own narcissism and truly love: 1 John 4:7-8   Beloved, let us love one another, for love is of God; and everyone who loves is born of God and knows God.  8 He who does not love does not know God, for God is love.

But some might object, isn’t this “love language” thing an application of 1 Peter 3:7   Husbands, likewise, dwell with them with understanding, giving honor to the wife, as to the weaker vessel, and as being heirs together of the grace of life, that your prayers may not be hindered.  I answer no! THe understanding is not about some best-selling psycho-babel that encourages the discontent of women.  The understanding that Peter refers to is the understanding of the word of God and the understanding of His love language, obedience.

I wonder how long Christians will continue to embrace every feel-good psychology that comes along and occludes the clear teaching of the word of God.   Telling men to man up and make their wives happy has fueled the feminist rebellion and discontent which is now mainstream in post-modern Christendom.

Head or Figure Head?

Burger KingThere has been a good deal of discussion about headship in the Christian world.  What does it mean that Christ is the head of the church? And in similar fashion what by extension does it mean that the husband is the head of the wife?  Some still advocate that head as used in scripture indicates source.  While this has been soundly de-bunked feminists and anti-nomians still do not accept that head concerns authority.  But what is the most distasteful is that this headship in scripture  requires them to submit to their head.  As much as feminists of all stripes try to suppress the truth of scripture, one inescapable theme is that husbands are to be the head of the wife in marriage.  There is no command for husbands to subjugate their wives, or to domineer over them, but the order of authority is accomplished by a wife submitting to her own husband.   His headship is in practice not enforced by the husband exerting force, but by the wife willingly submitting to husband.  Peter characterizes her submission as that to a slave to his master,(1 Peter 2-3) Christ to the Father and even calling him Lord.  Paul says that she is to submit to him as to the Lord. (Eph 5:22)

A common phrase herd in Christianity today is “Jesus is my Lord and Savior”.  This is a good and proper phrase if it is understood to mean what the words indicate.  Lord is another name for ruler, king, sovereign and master.  Jesus is Lord means that he rules the universe with power and authority.  He has all authority in heaven and earth.  His law is law, regardless whether his creation acknowledges it or not.  He is the judge, the jury and  the prosecution.  There is no court of higher appeal, no challenging the charges and no escaping His justice.  He is Lord of all of it.  This is what it means that He is Lord.  But He is also savior and this is good news, the gospel, that he defends His elect by taking their guilt, verdict of conviction and sentence upon Himself and gives to His elect His own righteousness and innocence.  But He does not stop there; He adopts His elect into His family.  The Collection of the elect makes up His bride and become sons of the Father.

As the husband of the church and the Lord of the individual elect Christ Jesus rules with authority and grace, but with the non-elect He rules with authority and justice.  Some are ruled with love others with wrath.   The bride gets the grace those who refuse to submit to His rule wrath.

When Peter and Paul tell wives to submit as to Christ or calling her husband Lord the stakes are high.  If she defies her husband she is defying Christ’s appointed authority, if she submits to her husband as an earthly lord she is really submitting to Christ as Lord.   She does not submit to her husband as savior from her sin, but as God’s appointed her protector, provider and ruler.  Yes ruler!  (Gen 3:16, 1 Tim 3:5, Heb 13:7)

Jesus tells this parable about authority and delegation of authority in Luke 20:9-18 .

  “A certain man planted a vineyard, leased it to vinedressers, and went into a far country for a long time.  Now at vintage-time he sent a servant to the vinedressers, that they might give him some of the fruit of the vineyard. But the vinedressers beat him and sent him away empty-handed.  Again he sent another servant; and they beat him also, treated him shamefully, and sent him away empty-handed.  And again he sent a third; and they wounded him also and cast him out.  Then the owner of the vineyard said, ‘What shall I do? I will send my beloved son. Probably they will respect him when they see him.’  But when the vinedressers saw him, they reasoned among themselves, saying, ‘This is the heir. Come, let us kill him, that the inheritance may be ours.’  So they cast him out of the vineyard and killed him. Therefore what will the owner of the vineyard do to them?  He will come and destroy those vinedressers and give the vineyard to others”

This incident is set up when the scribes and the elders ask Jesus …

Tell us, by what authority are You doing these things? Or who is he who gave You this authority?” Luke 20:2

After the parable Jesus describes the ominous repercussion of not honoring that authority:

 ‘The stone which the builders rejected Has become the chief cornerstone’?  Whoever falls on that stone will be broken; but on whomever it falls, it will grind him to powder.” Luke 20:17-18 

When a wife does not honor the husband, she is like the vine-dressers who will not honor the owner/Lord by refusing the appointed servants and even the owner’s son.  The servants of the owner had no authority over the vine-dressers except that which was given to them to exercise by the owner/Lord.  A husband has no authority over his wife except that which the Lord gives to him.  To hold him in contempt is like killing the heir. (Matt 5: 21-22) The world has largely denied the authority of the husband, but then it has largely denied the authority of the Lord.

That is the real problem.   Wives are following the teaching of Peter and Paul in that they treat the lordship of their husband like they do the Lord of heaven and Earth.  They submit to neither when it does not suit their fancy.  It is criminal that wives would treat Christ with as much contempt as they do their husbands, but that is what evangelicalism has done.  They are living a life-view of authority much like the British monarchy, the Queen/King does not rule, they only serve as window dressing,  The queen waves in parades and the prince visits foreign lands not as a ruler, but as an good-will ambassador and figure head.

Christendom has fragged the officers of the home and set up a system where husbands submit to their wives.   (“Happy wife..happy life”, “She would submit if only he led”, “If he loved her like Jesus she would follow” … etc. ) It is commonplace to hear pastors and christian radio vilify the authority of the home and encourage women to civilize, train sanctify their heads.  On the rare occasion when wifely  submission is taught, it is in my experience proceeded with the statement “submission is not …” and always the word doormat is included.  Why start where the Bible does not go?  Because the Bible  teaches submission of the wife and headship husband.  In telling wives that submission is not in all things, contrary to Eph 5:24, or in all circumstances, and especially if he is not obeying the Word (1 Peter 3:1), they are creating so many subjective qualifications to render the scriptures of no effect.  The wife is encouraged to rule the household and yet, they still they tell men to be the figure head, just like the British royal family position with no authority.  In a way, the husband is just like Christ to the modern church.   He bears an honorary title and is really cool when He does what she wants Him to do for her!

Don’t Get Forked!

So often in life an issue is framed as a false dichotomy.   Feminists are black belts in such framing.  As I was perusing Deep Strength he pointed out one of these dichotomies.

He writes:

  • Choosing that you want a woman who can cook and take care of the house (patriarchy, holding down women) = evil.
  • Desiring a woman based on physical attraction (“judges” women) = Shallow. Shame on you men for not looking past physical appearance

In chess we used to call this a fork.  If you move your rook your queen is captured and if you move your queen the rook is captured.  It takes a great deal of maneuvering plus a mistake by an opponent to set up a good fork in chess.  Feminists are maneuvering to make men either evil patriarchs or shallow sexists as they choose to show inters in a woman.   Men are tempted to make the mistake of attempting to thread the needle to avoid the charges.

The better approach is to avoid living down the center between the charges of extremism, but to live on another plain altogether; a higher plain that does not concern itself with the judgement of feminists, but is very concerned with the judgment of God.

Neither utility nor sexuality alone is the basis that God created marriage.  Both are important and reasons to get married or avoid marriage.

Genesis 1:27-31  So God created man in His own image; in the image of God He created him; male and female He created them.  Then God blessed them, and God said to them, “Be fruitful and multiply; fill the earth and subdue it; have dominion over the fish of the sea, over the birds of the air, and over every living thing that moves on the earth.”  And God said, “See, I have given you every herb that yields seed which is on the face of all the earth, and every tree whose fruit yields seed; to you it shall be for food.  “Also, to every beast of the earth, to every bird of the air, and to everything that creeps on the earth, in which there is life, I have given every green herb for food”; and it was so.  Then God saw everything that He had made, and indeed it was very good. So the evening and the morning were the sixth day. 

Genesis 2:18-25   And the LORD God said, “It is not good that man should be alone; I will make him a helper comparable to him.”  Out of the ground the LORD God formed every beast of the field and every bird of the air, and brought them to Adam to see what he would call them. And whatever Adam called each living creature, that was its name.   So Adam gave names to all cattle, to the birds of the air, and to every beast of the field. But for Adam there was not found a helper comparable to him.  And the LORD God caused a deep sleep to fall on Adam, and he slept; and He took one of his ribs, and closed up the flesh in its place.  Then the rib which the LORD God had taken from man He made into a woman, and He brought her to the man.  And Adam said: “This is now bone of my bones And flesh of my flesh; She shall be called Woman, Because she was taken out of Man.”  Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and they shall become one flesh.   And they were both naked, the man and his wife, and were not ashamed.

God created marriage because it was not good that man be alone especially regarding the twofold task of taking dominion.  The first part is to subdue the earth and the second is to populate it.  Marriage serves to facilitate both of those purposes.  Men work harder and more effectively when there is a family who depends upon him and without a woman a man cannot pro-create.  Companionship is the solution to loneliness and so marriage not only helps a man take dominion but also provides so that neither live alone. This is the stated reason that God created marriage from the beginning.

In the New Testament Paul tells us that there are reasons for marriage. The union of husband and wife creates a living picture of Christ and His bride, the church.  Thus the marriage is a presentation of the gospel.   Paul also instructs that sexual desire is a reason to enter marriage.

Ephesians 5:31-32    “For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh.”   This is a great mystery, but I speak concerning Christ and the church

Malachi tells us that God desires godly offspring, so marriage not only is the context to have children, but to raise and disciple them.

Malachi 2:15   15 But did He not make them one, Having a remnant of the Spirit? And why one? He seeks godly offspring. Therefore take heed to your spirit, And let none deal treacherously with the wife of his youth. 

My advice to young men has been; only marry a woman who is a christian that you are attracted to, who shares your life vision, who will assist you in achieving that vision, who wants to bear your children and demonstrates a “helper’s heart” of service and submission. Cooking cleaning singing and the like are all bonus points, but don’t overlook an otherwise acceptable perspective wife just because she can’t prepare a proper crown roast like mom used to make.  Let the feminists complain.  Rejoice in the wife of your youth, it drives the feminists bonkers.   Don’t get forked!